Finally, differences in cultural traditions.
1。 different values
Americans have personality, value orientation based on individual-based individualism, focusing on personal interests, advocating personal development, self-realization, which is the core of American culture. A U.S. scholar aptly pointed out: In a democratic society, every citizen have the habit of pondering a small goal, that is himself. In the family, the individual is based, the individual with the highest value, do not rely on others to exist, independent of family relationships. So in American families, parents tend to view themselves and the children as two separate individuals, "self", including parents and children of self-self. First of all, children, the realization of self-worth is clear to respect the wishes of children, interests and hobbies, they all had different parents, the United States more emphasis on individual enjoyment of life, usually a child will never give up in order to listen to concerts, watching movies, dancing or appointments .
Chinese people talk about similarities, there is an overall supreme values, emphasizing the collective interests above personal interests. Chinese believe that people approach is the establishment of the "two" antagonistic relations generated. From ancient times, "self" concept is always associated with another attendant, personal value only in relationship with others, was able to reflect. In Chinese families, the parents, loss of self, nor the children's self-respect, my parents, loss of self expression is the presence of a severe "parent-child a sense of unity" and parents and their children their own values as a continuation of the child as their own life, full and life, hope, and children with sensory integration indivisible. Such parents will substitute their own children's interests, standing on the perspective of the design of adult children's future, so the expectations of Chinese parents in relation to the child's ability is high.
The United States re-personality, the Chinese say there is a common value orientation of their economic background. The United States in the modern capitalist economic structure and dynamic commodity economy premature exclusion of natural economy, champion the past century. Individuals under the conditions of the commodity economy is relatively independent, each individual can do to improve themselves in extended self, can be in the commodity economy based on competition and development, so the importance of self-cultivation tradition. A natural continuation of the Chinese economy for thousands of years, Chinese people habitually tied to the land, to deprive individuals of the conditions of independent development, decades of planned economy failed to let the Chinese people out of dependency. Personal development often need to "take the relationship" to the individual's assessment is carried out by comparison with others, and they tend to integrate into the collective, to avoid being isolated.
2, thinking styles in different
Americans are rationalism, the U.S. Family Education respected the basic principles of a rational treatment of family members and family matters. The United States are mostly the parents duty to raise and educate their children, and the obligation to society, like look, this is beyond the individual's position, rather than exclusively from the family itself or the parents of their own interests to look at family education. Since they believe that raising children is compulsory, and not have plans to raise children for old age, neither return their old nursing home into a person's fate should be (of course, the Chinese people as unethical practices stem from the U.S. Social Security mechanisms and cultural practices).
The Chinese are feelings first, our family education to human relations based, emotional reasoning as a rule, to deal with family relationships. My parents, their children as their own private property, from a personal pension or a personal honor for face-saving point of view about their children's education, caring parent implies more intense sympathy and affection in the "Returning the favor," the affair. Thus speaking, is not difficult to understand why Chinese parents, "Succeed", "hope women into the Phoenix," the mood is far better than in the United States, often utilitarian purpose of family education.
Finally, differences in cultural traditions.
1, different values
Americans have personality, value orientation based on individual-based individualism, focusing on personal interests, advocating personal development, self-realization, which is the core of American culture. A U.S. scholar aptly pointed out: In a democratic society, every citizen have the habit of pondering a small goal, that is himself. In the family, the individual is based, the individual with the highest value, do not rely on others to exist, independent of family relationships. So in American families, parents tend to view themselves and the children as two separate individuals, "self", including parents and children of self-self. First of all, children, the realization of self-worth is clear to respect the wishes of children, interests and hobbies, they all had different parents, the United States more emphasis on individual enjoyment of life, usually a child will never give up in order to listen to concerts, watching movies, dancing or appointments .
Chinese people talk about similarities, there is an overall supreme values, emphasizing the collective interests above personal interests. Chinese believe that people approach is the establishment of the "two" antagonistic relations generated. From ancient times, "self" concept is always associated with another attendant, personal value only in relationship with others, was able to reflect. In Chinese families, the parents, loss of self, nor the children's self-respect, my parents, loss of self expression is the presence of a severe "parent-child a sense of unity" and parents and their children their own values as a continuation of the child as their own life, full and life, hope, and children with sensory integration indivisible. Such parents will substitute their own children's interests, standing on the perspective of the design of adult children's future, so the expectations of Chinese parents in relation to the child's ability is high.
The United States re-personality, the Chinese say there is a common value orientation of their economic background. The United States in the modern capitalist economic structure and dynamic commodity economy premature exclusion of natural economy, champion the past century. Individuals under the conditions of the commodity economy is relatively independent, each individual can do to improve themselves in extended self, can be in the commodity economy based on competition and development, so the importance of self-cultivation tradition. A natural continuation of the Chinese economy for thousands of years, Chinese people habitually tied to the land, to deprive individuals of the conditions of independent development, decades of planned economy failed to let the Chinese people out of dependency. Personal development often need to "take the relationship" to the individual's assessment is carried out by comparison with others, and they tend to integrate into the collective, to avoid being isolated.
2, thinking styles in different
Americans are rationalism, the U.S. Family Education respected the basic principles of a rational treatment of family members and family matters. The United States are mostly the parents duty to raise and educate their children, and the obligation to society, like look, this is beyond the individual's position, rather than exclusively from the family itself or the parents of their own interests to look at family education. Since they believe that raising children is compulsory, and not have plans to raise children for old age, neither return their old nursing home into a person's fate should be (of course, the Chinese people as unethical practices stem from the U.S. Social Security mechanisms and cultural practices).
The Chinese are feelings first, our family education to human relations based, emotional reasoning as a rule, to deal with family relationships. My parents, their children as their own private property, from a personal pension or a personal honor for face-saving point of view about their children's education, caring parent implies more intense sympathy and affection in the "Returning the favor," the affair. Thus speaking, is not difficult to understand why Chinese parents, "Succeed", "hope women into the Phoenix," the mood is far better than in the United States, often utilitarian purpose of family education.